While browsing escort ads on the Internet, you have probably come across the term BDSM more than once. No wonder. This form of sexual fetish has become very popular recently. So if you want to find out what exactly BDSM is and how to practice it safely, read on!
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BDSM is based on opposites such as:
- bondage and discipline,
- dominance and submission,
- sadism and masochism.
Domination and discipline involve the desire to restrain someone, sometimes even to arrest them erotically. Submission and slavery, in turn, mean the desire to be submissive to the dominant and to follow his orders exactly. However, sadism and masochism are a strong relationship of arousal based on the suffering of the partner (sadism) and the satisfaction of the sufferer (masochism).
So, as you can see, it really depends on you which of these roles you feel better in and what brings you sexual fulfillment. At the beginning of your adventure with BDSM, this is a key distinction that will allow you to fully benefit from the possibilities of sex ads. And even personal ads where sex is not an option. Why? Because BDSM activities alone may be so exciting for you that other elements will be unnecessary. A voluntary relationship between a master and a sex slave can take place, for example, only via telephone calls and fulfill its erotic role perfectly.
What else do you need to know before you start looking for BDSM sex offers?
They will already be at the stage of defining their role - dominant or slave, you can move on. Pain, sex and power are a combination that can be achieved in many ways. Some BDSM practitioners experience sexual pleasure through dressing themselves, role-playing, pouring hot candle wax, biting, hair pulling, putting chains around the neck, spanking, and testing the limits of their erotic partners.
Most often, however, these are elements of foreplay that ultimately lead to sex - although they do not always have to include it.
BDSM sexual practices, especially those offered by escort girls, are based on the use of appropriate accessories. The most common items include harnesses, tape, blindfolds, anal hooks, mouth gags, ropes, handcuffs, whips, bondage kits, and sex toys such as anal plugs, vibrators, and cock rings. As you can see, the range of possibilities is really large, and the only limitation is your imagination.
You also need to know that if you prefer discipline and bondage, but do not agree with masochism and sadism, then BDSM is also for you. All you need to do is find yourself in the role of a submissive or dominant person to start looking for this type of personal ads.
BDSM – what does it look like in practice?
Girls who want to meet you privately will definitely determine in advance what role they want to play. It is best to choose a woman who is dominant or submissive, already at the stage of searching and browsing sex ads. This way you will avoid possible misunderstandings at later stages.
By taking on the role of a dominant, you will be able to decide about everything your submissive woman will do. Remember, however, that it must always be done with her consent! You can tell her that you want to prevent her from orgasming, or that you would like to pull her hair, or use ropes, whips, and handcuffs. If he agrees to it, you’re free to go.
In turn, when choosing the role of a submissive, you will have to fully surrender to your mistress and trust her completely. This can be an exceptionally pleasant experience and allow you to reach previously unknown levels of excitement and erotic fulfillment.
Remember that when playing both roles, your and your partner’s safety is crucial. It should be a pleasant experience for you, which will not involve mental or physical pain. Only this way you will be able to arrange further, positive sexual encounters. During BDSM, you should clearly talk about your needs and fears, and raise the alarm when one of the parties crosses the boundaries. A good practice is to define a safety word that, if spoken immediately, will result in the interruption of the session. It can be any mutually agreed word that will give you and your escort girl a sense of control.
Is practicing BDSM regularly dangerous?
If you’re just starting out with BDSM, you may be wondering if this sexual behavior can become an addiction? We are in a hurry to respond. According to research and clinical observations, regular practice of this type of erotic fetish is not dangerous and does not directly affect other aspects of life. Of course, there are some deviations from this norm, but they should be treated and resolved as individual cases. If you notice that something disturbing is happening to you in this area of your life, contact a sexologist or a psychologist and dispel your doubts.
Roksa, Odloty and Escort are examples of great interest in BDSM
Looking at Polish escort advertisements and based on research conducted in Great Britain, it is clear that BDSM is the most popular sexual fetish. In this country, on average, there are as many as 90,500 searches for the term BDSM per month. In addition, a survey conducted by Sex Band Lelo in 2020 clearly showed that as many as three quarters of respondents had tried this type of erotic play in various forms. So if you haven’t had the opportunity to take advantage of a sex offer in which BDSM plays the leading role - it’s worth catching up and letting your imagination run wild!
Finally, we have a mini beginner’s dictionary for you, where you will find words related to BDSM. They may also appear in the content of some escort offers:
- VANILLA - a term used to refer to people who do not practice BDSM;
- SCENE - BDSM performances among couples that take place while practicing this type of fetish;
- SSC - these initials stand for safe, reasonable and voluntary consent of two people;
- RACK – these are subsequent initials denoting risk awareness and with the consent of partners:
- SWITCHER – a person who likes to change his role during BDSM practices, i.e. sometimes he is submissive and sometimes dominant.