The other person doesn’t know what’s going on in your head, and this can determine the success of a sex date. How to communicate your sexual needs? Read and see how to talk to your partner, even a casual one, about what can bring joy to each party.

Why is communication in sex important?

Communicating sexual needs and speaking clearly about fantasies is still difficult for many people. Interestingly, problems do not only appear in permanent relationships. Difficulties affect people who are seemingly liberated and willing to go on sex dates.

Why is talking in bed important and makes sense?

First of all, it shortens the path to sexual fulfillment, allows you to discover and understand your own needs and find the best way to satisfy them. It is also a good way to establish your own sexual boundaries and specify what you will never be able to agree to.

Communication in sex is important not only in permanent relationships and promising relationships. One-time adventures initiated through erotic ads and dating apps also require some talking. Using companion ads or posting your own sex ads, it is worth specifying the purpose of such activity.

Define what you are looking for – a one-night stand, friends with benefits, or maybe – true love? This is a valuable tip for potential sexual partners and the first step to an honest conversation during a sex date.

How to talk about sex before and during sex?

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Talking about sex before and during intercourse affects the well-being of lovers and can help to get rid of limitations. You can talk about needs and fantasies, as well as – preparation for intimacy and possible doubts. How to do it properly (i.e. with sensitivity) and what (if necessary) to replace the conversation with? Read and check.

Talking about sex before a sex date: negotiate boundaries – it’s exciting!
The awareness of an upcoming sex meeting works primarily on the imagination. The time before a sex date should therefore be used to fantasize and talk about them. Negotiate the terms of the meeting via an online messenger. This way of establishing a scenario and talking about the sexual needs of yourself and your partner will be much easier.

Talking about sex before and during a sex date: do not judge your partner’s preferences
When initiating a conversation about the sexual needs of each party, you should focus primarily on honesty. Talking about desires directly helps to avoid misunderstandings resulting from, for example, unconsciously crossing the boundaries of one of the lovers.
Talking about sexual preferences is almost always refreshing. A shot of novelty can inspire, but remember not to judge your partner’s preferences. You may disagree with a given proposal, but you should absolutely not criticize it.

Talking about sex before a sex date: ask about current research and present your own
Communication in sex also means talking about current research - your partner’s and your own. Taking care of your sexual health is not only necessary if you regularly use personal ads. Regular tests are also required for partners in open relationships and, despite trust, permanent relationships. Free and anonymous tests can be performed at consultation and diagnostic points located throughout Poland.

How else to talk about sex before and during sex? Practical tips

Talking about sex differently?
If you are afraid to talk about your desires loudly and directly, you can do so using one of the methods proposed below. Interestingly, they will also work in the case of a sex date.
A note about desires is a great idea for communicating your sexual needs. You can slip a note into your pocket or leave it in the bedroom for a permanent partner, send it by e-mail to a random partner before a sex meeting or give it to him directly before intimacy. This is a great way to move from words to actions... without talking!

An erotic film is another idea for initiating a conversation about erotic desires or a smooth transition from words to actions. A hot and imaginative session will definitely inspire you to experiment.

Take the initiative and subtly show your partner what you want. Lead the other person and... let them lead you. Experimenting without words and without commentary can be incredibly exciting. There is one condition, however - you know your limits.